Alexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
Doesn’t the same statement apply to cis lesbians, though? I mean, don’t they want to get in lesbians’ pants, too?
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
I’m sorry, but this is so obviously a dodge. People who identify as women and are assigned female at birth experience privilege over people who identify as women and are assigned male at birth (who are...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
I feel this way a lot. The noise of arch-conservative types doesn’y bother me so much, since I can fight their screwed up rhetoric without having to worry about what they think of me. They’re nice and...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
I should clarify: before I came out at 21, I definitely experienced a degree of male privilege. I was able to hide being trans quite well, and since I started “passing” with a degree of consistency...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
Fine. I had male privilege all through childhood. So I guess that makes up for being permanently disfigured from going through the wrong puberty and having to put up with conversations like these....
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
I’m sorry about the difficulties you had and my weasel language about my privilege. But as someone with diagnosed PTSD myself (pulling broken glass soaked in my attacker’s urine out of my genitals...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
For the record, I don’t think your trauma around penises in sexual situations makes you transmisogynistic. I don’t see why I had to be a punching bag for that.
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
Point taken. I think I should take a break from commenting on AS and the rest of the feminist internet for a while. I seem to be getting into a lot of fights lately and saying a lot of problematic...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I Had Facial Feminization Surgery
Would you mind if I contact you about your selection process, as well? Even though I can’t afford it in the foreseeable future, I still want FFS and just moping about my nasty man-face is worse than...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, BREAKING: Supreme Court Declares DOMA...
I logged in just to upvote you. For my part, all of the positive feels I’m getting from DOMA dying are more than swamped by the disgust I’m still feeling about the Voting Rights Act decision. Supreme...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, You Should Go: The Bronx LGBTQ Pride...
I used to live in East Tremont for like, 5 years! I totally want to come! But my law school journal has me running all over the damn place tomorrow looking for rare books that some dumb article author...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Seven Queer Webcomics That Are Not DAR
Shocking, isn’t it?
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Jeanne Córdova's "When We Were Outlaws": Not...
A million times this. The wealth of anti-trans theories, attitudes, and manifestos that came out of the second wave (and the near-complete dearth of counter-argument within the movement at the time)...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, NJ's Gay Conversion Therapy Ban Is Great,...
This kind of reminds me of the Pat Robertson statement on trans people a while back. Except the result of this is a lot better (though it would have happened whether Christie had signed the bill or not...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Bustle.com Conjures Every Terrible Feeling...
I feel like the whole situation with Bustle and the situation with Forbes you’ve described here combine into a very important, but difficult to articulate lesson. Something about making blanket lists...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Listling With Brief Commentary: Headlines...
I know. I ask myself that goddamn question every morning in some form or another. “Does this look queer to you? ‘Cause I’m not sure if this reads queer or straight hipster.” HELP ME!
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Kristen's Team Pick: DIY Dating Profiles...
“Throwing rocks at trains full-contact you’re going to be trained to my satisfaction in my birthday suit. For real though if you like my profile there’s no such thing as a typical Friday night my other...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, A Million Gays Here, A Million There This...
I’m sorta “meh” about Pritzker coming out. Yeah, it’s good that she can feel safe enough to do that and start living authentically to herself. But her life’s work is so far up the ass of capitalist...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Two Trans* Women of Color Murdered Within a...
Yeah. As important as the Chelsea Manning story is, seeing the coverage and attention paid to it by the trans women’s community while these at-least-equally-important stories go much less noticed is...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Will Give You Sex Hair
Yeah, no. Not touching anything of Bindel’s. I’m pretty sure I can credit her with a significant portion of my self-hatred, and definitely a breakdown or two. She and her purist survey can fuck all the...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Trans Woman Denied Admission to Smith...
the author didn’t keep qualifying *their* discussion. I originally had just the word “article” there, but then I realized that it didn’t write itself, but I forgot to make the object pronoun agree with...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Meet 51 Kickass Women From The 2013 Trans 100
You could try the 12 articles prior to this one that are not trans-forcused (I counted).
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Meet 51 Kickass Women From The 2013 Trans 100
Yeah, that’s why I said “not trans-focused,” since your exact comment was “is this even a site for lesbians anymore? Or just trans individuals?”
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Meet 51 Kickass Women From The 2013 Trans 100
Correction, since I did not do my “count” carefully. Prior to this article, there are 6 articles related to non-trans-specific queerness, 1 food article, 1 fashion article, and 3 trans-specific...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Meet 51 Kickass Women From The 2013 Trans 100
Yeah, I was debating whether to say anything about carebear’s comment, especially now that it has been deleted, but here goes: I’m glad you brought up making fun of trans women’s genitals. From my...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, The RadRight And The Restroom
I’ll prove that I won’t jerk off to the sound of your daughter peeing in a restroom if you prove that you won’t jerk off to the sound of your daughter peeing in a restroom first. Where’s your proof?...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, New Research Suggests Homophobia Linked to...
I always wonder how much my being trans and into ladies affected my focus on my studies. I was and continue to be a total overachiever (HS salutatorian, summa cum laude college grad, Law Review, etc.)...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Freezing My Assets: On Transitioning and...
I found this piece very enlightening. Trans women who are, or are considering being, parents are a part of the community about which I knew little and I’m glad to broaden my horizons. I didn’t freeze...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, A Prairie Homo Companion: Weather Watch...
NYC-dweller here. I have a lot of body issues, so being a femme-ish type in the summertime cranks my depression into overload. I don’t have nice, big coats to hide under when it’s warm, so I spend most...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Butch Please: Butch in the Bathroom
God I hate gendered bathrooms. I identify as a woman and I don’t feel that I don’t belong in the women’s bathroom, but holy shit am I scared of what other people might say or do there. It seems like...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Butch Please: Butch in the Bathroom
Yeah, until I started “passing” better recently, simply telling someone who wanted me out of the women’s room that I was a woman either (1) left me feeling awkward, broken, and alien or (2) didn’t stop...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Sunday Funday Will Make Her Two Moms Proud...
Oh my god I am so amazed and thrilled about Smith’s change in policy! Now all I need is a time machine…
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Sunday Funday Will Make Her Two Moms Proud...
I’ve been watching this whole thing unfold for a while and I just want to know: what do you want trans women to say and do? I mean, I’m happy they budged at all, sure. But are we supposed to pat the...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Sunday Funday Will Make Her Two Moms Proud...
I feel like “talking over” is exactly what’s going on here, though. Trans women have a legitimate complaint against every single trans-exclusionary women’s college. Maybe some more than others, but...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Sunday Funday Will Make Her Two Moms Proud...
Sorry for getting angry. Sometimes I over-identify with others and just lose it. Plus it’s law school finals time. I didn’t say anything above that isn’t what I believe, but I normally wouldn’t use the...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Pro-Gay AND Pro-Immigration? You're Stuck...
I hate these no-win scenarios. I’m looking to practice immigration law in the future (I’ve been doing some of it as an intern, and will continue to do so this summer)and I’m honestly not sure which...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Brittani's Video Party: Drag Queens, Janelle...
I guh… d–… wha? … Oh wow. Good to see our pain is still a huge fucking joke to everyone. I had forgotten for, like, seven seconds.
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, A Bra That Fits Me: A Critique of The...
As someone who is definitely a 38A, and who wears a slightly uncomfortable, but at least somewhat flattering 36B, this is really disappointing. It’s no fun for me to go out to try on bras and figure...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Pro-Gay AND Pro-Immigration? You're Stuck...
LMAO Sorry for the jargon. I’m just in the middle of studying for finals and trying to translate immigration law into something coherent demands more time, and possibly intelligence, than I have to...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Brittani's Video Party: Drag Queens, Janelle...
If it wasn’t meant to trivialize the use of unlicensed plastic surgery (specifically silicone-pumping) by trans women, then–excuse me for saying so–but I’m not even sure what the joke is. It seems like...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Team Pick: Hyperbole and a Half is Backish!
This is so great! I loved Hyperbole and a Half, and I was scared to death when it stopped updating after she made the post about severe depression. Depression is a hideous monster. Mine is being...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I Had Facial Feminization Surgery
I’m amazed at your strength going through this! I think about getting FFS done in the distant future and my head starts to hurt and I get tired. I found that so much of your piece resonates with me....
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I Had Facial Feminization Surgery
As someone who is transsexual and identifies under the transgender umbrella (i.e. doesn’t identify with the gender/sex assigned to me at birth), I see no point in drawing such a distinction in...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I Had Facial Feminization Surgery
It’s a vortex of unanswerable questions, for sure. Congrats and thanks so much for writing this!
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Liberty Lit #20: Remember Library Lesbianism
Re: the May 28th one at Bluestockings: by “women and trans,” do they mean, like, actually women and trans people? Whenever I see the phrase “women and trans” it makes me think of spaces where AMAB...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
This also exists among cis women. Would you like to meet my mother, who said I couldn’t REALLY be a woman because I had no fashion sense and I don’t shave my armpits? I acknowledge the existence of the...
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
Uh… I’m attracted to other transwomen. What’s your point? I know some cis women who are racists. Cis women are racists, you guys!
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, I'm Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You:...
Wow, used the wrong “its” twice. Bad day. Gonna call it quits for awhile and come back later.
View ArticleAlexandra commented on the post, Imagining a Better World For Trans Women...
another lesbian trans woman here disagreeing with the idea that there’s less transmisogyny in queer/trans spaces than in the cishet culture. i’ve actually experienced about half of the violence,...
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